Tickle Yourself

The penis is a fascinating piece of biological architecture. It is so loaded with neurons that it's no wonder the current joke is "thinking with the little head." It's also fascinating how each of us responds to different types of caresses, and I'm only talking about touching the cock. For some of us, an incredibly light touch is incredibly erotic, while a strong grip is even suffocating. For others, it's the opposite: softness is gentle and goes unnoticed, but they need a solid fleshy grip. These preferences for sensation can inhibit us, preventing us from being able to engage more fully in eroticism. Preference for sensation can prevent us from recognizing the different parts of the penis and how to tickle them in ways that eliminate softness versus hard intensity. It can even pigeonhole us: an acquaintance could only orgasm by rubbing against a pillow or outdoing another guy; another could only orgasm if using a specific type of lubricant; another could only reach orgasm if his cock had a deadly grip and was stroked in a very, very particular way. Often, these fixations limit us in how we enjoy each other, or even simply enjoy when pleasure is in our own hands. It seems that there can be a lot of emphasis or expectation placed on orgasm/ejaculation ('also known as the destination'), instead of enjoying the eroticism of getting there (also known as 'the journey'). Here are some techniques that can make masturbating oneself or others a bit more erotic: Make your fantasy 'Tickling': there is a ridge of tissue on the ventral (bottom) side of the penis; it is pleasantly sensitive and deserves as much attention as the glans (head). There are two subtle techniques you can use here: a) drumming with your fingers and b) feathering with your fingers. Drumming with your fingers is when the fingertips of your dominant hand face up, under the penis. Starting with the ring finger, then the middle finger, then the index finger, lightly tap the ridge by swaying the fingers one after the other. This can be singularly erotic and pairs well with stroking the testicles, perineum, etc. Feathering is somewhat similar: the fingers of your dominant hand face up, palm open, on the underside (ventral) edge and sway the ring, middle, and index fingers upwards ( towards the head/glans). However, instead of drumming, the swaying is more of a tap-tap-tap of three fingers towards the head. Think of a motion similar to flicking a scent towards your nose, but each finger is floating, floating, floating. Feathering is really useful with lubricant, while drumming benefits without lubricant. 'Flicking the Lighter': the glans (head) of the penis is incredibly sensitive, and the ridge that runs around the glans is no different. Where the ridge meets at the 'top' of the head is exceptionally sensitive. Forming this little fleshy bag right next to the urethral opening (or "pee hole"). When moved very gently as if flicking the wheel of a cigarette lighter, it can be incredibly exciting. Using the tip of your index finger, a little lubricant is helpful, gently press just below where the glans ridge meets the urethral opening. Make the smallest stroke with your index finger towards the hole, like a brush flicking a little paint onto the canvas, and repeat that motion repeatedly and quickly. The sensation is very much like a tongue gently licking right at that point and is thrilling when done right. 'Stick Shifting': this can be wonderfully and ridiculously overwhelming because it overloads the mind with intense waves of pleasure. It takes a lot of lubricant for this to work (so if saliva like there's no tomorrow, great! Otherwise, use another lubricant). Start by getting the cock hard, REALLY hard. . . then cup your hand around the glans as if you're forming an ice cream scoop. Keep this shape and rub around the glans as if polishing the head of a gearshift. Keep doing that as the intensity grows and grows and grows. Relax and stroke the shaft of the cock with a fairly strong grip as the intensity increases in a different way. Go back to polishing the head and work until you can't take it anymore. Stroke the cock shaft until it seems like you're approaching orgasm and IMMEDIATELY go back to polishing just the head. Try adding them to your solo or duo sex repertoire and see how they fit. Different styles like these may take some practice to enjoy and incorporate, mainly because we usually feel more comfortable with what we are already familiar with. Trying different techniques is fun and, after all, variety is the spice of life.