When is the next members activity?
Check the members' calendar (exclusive access to members only)! Each scheduled Pajas entre Colegas event is added to the online calendar as soon as it is confirmed.
Events usually take place on Friday afternoons and Sundays at noon, but dates and times are subject to possible changes.
Where do the events take place?
Here is information on where it is located and how to get there to our SeDe in Argüelles, Madrid.
Is the club legal?
Yes, all PeC events are legal. We are a Non-Profit Association registered nationally. Our events are private functions of a private club, involving consensual acts among adults. We have consulted with the police and lawyers to ensure that the club's activities fully comply with the laws of Spain. We strictly monitor and do not allow alcohol, drugs, or minors at our events.
What do you mean when you say that PeCs do not discriminate?
Our commitment to inclusion and diversity is one of the key factors that makes our club work. Besides the requirement that you are an adult man (over 18 years old), we do not discriminate against anyone for any subjective trait. We do not evaluate potential members based on age, race, ethnic origin, body type, fitness level, sexual orientation, or "perceived" sexual orientation.
Why are Jacks events only for men?
This group was never intended to cater to all sexual desires; our focus is specific: to create a space where men can openly masturbate with other men. Two-thirds of our members identify as homosexual, while the remaining third is bisexual, heterosexual. For many gay men, the presence of women would absolutely exclude the possibility of having sexual relations.
That being said, we support sexual positivity for everyone.
I love the events, but they never seem to fit my schedule. Can you schedule an event at a different time?
We hear you. We would also love to have the ability to have a 24/7 club. Unfortunately, the cost would be astronomical and the group size would never reach critical mass.
We hope you can find time to join us at one of our events, which we organize three times a month, but if you can't, a good option is to organize your own event. Anyone can! When planning a private Club event, think of it as any social event you host at your home. Plan ahead, prepare the space for your guests, and give them time to plan their attendance.
You can even announce it to PeC members through our online networks or informally at one of our events. While private events are subject to the choices of their hosts, and while you can host any event in your home you want, any event announced through TdM channels (online or at one of our events) must comply with the spirit of the Code of Conduct.
I feel excited but nervous about attending my first event. Can I just sit on the sidelines and watch? Do I have to participate?
The Code of Conduct defines Minimum Participation as undressing to underwear. You must also be ready to be among other men who are masturbating and who may invite you to participate with them. Beyond that, you are in charge of your own level of participation. You do not have to touch anyone or let anyone touch you, although mutual contact within the limits of the Code of Conduct is welcome, common, and encouraged. Your body belongs to you alone, and we absolutely honor and celebrate it.
Regarding nerves, we accept it as a natural thing for newcomers (although not everyone is!). We encourage you, when you are ready, to come and try it out. Spend more than a few minutes in the space and we bet the nerves will fade away.
What about STIs? Is it safe to masturbate with other guys?
There are two things safer than group PeC: Masturbating alone and not having any sex. In the 40 years since the initial diagnosis of HIV, mutual masturbation has been responsible for zero cases of HIV infection. There is also no evidence that it is a transmission source for any other STIs, with the possible exception of herpes simplex. According to our Code of Conduct, PeC members prevent semen from spilling on or near any body opening.
In more general terms, as a positive sexual organization, we encourage all members to remember that research on HIV and STIs is constantly evolving and what you knew to be true a few years ago may no longer be accurate. We hope our members make informed and thoughtful decisions about their own health and harm reduction strategies, particularly regarding their sexual activities outside the Jacks environment. To that end, we provide resources and literature at all our events on STIs, testing, and harm reduction.
If I enjoy masturbating with other guys, does that mean I'm gay?
About a third of Jacks members identify as something other than "gay," so we assume our response should be a pretty definitive "no".
Sexual orientation is a complex issue, and the social identities that accompany it are even more complex. Our perspective is that the answer to this question is much more about how you see yourself than any objective definition of sexuality; you are what you believe you are, you can identify as you wish, and you can come to any terms with your sexuality that make sense to you.
Given the right circumstances, when presented with a safe environment to explore, many heterosexual men can fully enjoy masturbating with other men. You do not need to (and in most cases cannot) alter your fundamental sexual orientation. It is also worth understanding that the vast majority of people are on a continuum of sexual orientation between completely gay and completely heterosexual. Most of us are capable, given the right circumstances, of enjoying a sexual experience beyond our natural predisposition.
And if you are, what's the problem?
How many members are at each event?
This varies, but we currently have an average of 15 attendees at each event. Our play space can easily accommodate over 30 guys. Our largest event to date attracted 50 members is our maximum capacity.
What is the age range of the guys at the events?
Because we verify the age of each of our members based on legal identifications, we know it with some precision. The ages of our members range from 18 to 88 years old. About a third of our members are between 20 and 30 years old and another third are between 40 and 50 years old. The average age of PeC members is around 32 years.
Each event is different in terms of the age and energy of the attendees, but practically all our meetings include men in their twenties, thirties, forties, and fifties. Often, members in their sixties or older also appear. If a guy is really interested in masturbating with several men in a social and informal environment, he will find like-minded guys at Pajas entre Colegas and many will be of his age.
Where can I store my belongings during the events?
Our headquarters provides lockers for members to store their personal effects during PeC events. We ask members to provide their own locks, but we also have loaner locks available.
In case attendance exceeds our supply of lockers, we will offer a supervised coat check to complement the available storage.
The Tdm group and/or Pajas entre Colegas are not responsible for personal items left in the lockers after the event. It is important for each member to ensure they empty their locker and verify they have all their belongings before leaving the premises.
What if I don't want to play with older guys, or younger guys, or "whatever..."?
You are not obligated to touch or be touched by anyone. You can decide who, if anyone, is your playmate.
That being said, we encourage participants to use Jacks events as an opportunity to confront age prejudices. There are extraordinarily attractive and erotic men of all ages there, and on more than one occasion, members have expressed surprise at being 'interested' in someone (or several people) they initially didn't think they would be. But, if at the end of the day, you are not excited by the friendly, erotic, and fraternal energy of a multigenerational group, then our events are probably not for you.
I'm curious, but I'm not ready to commit to membership yet. Can I try and attend an event before joining?
No. Pajas entre Colegas is a private club and all club events and activities are restricted to active members only.
Fortunately, club membership is affordable, available to all qualifying adult men, and can be purchased at the registration desk at any PeC event. However, we offer a "I Want to Try" trial membership option, which is an excellent way for men visiting from out of town, or for those who are curious but not ready to commit. This subscription makes you a club member for a single day. Therefore, technically you would be participating as a member, although you automatically cease to be one at the end of the day.
I value my privacy and want to attend discreetly. Can I participate anonymously?
PeC understands that the privacy of each member is very important. We want every man to feel completely safe at our events, and keeping personal information strictly confidential is part of our commitment. While you can attend confidentially, we legally cannot allow anonymity.
As a private club, the law requires us to verify and maintain a record of certain personal information of each member. At the time of registration, each individual must provide their legal name, address, and date of birth, all verified by a government-issued ID. There are no exceptions.
Our policy is to never disclose the personal information of any member unless required by a subpoena or public health investigation; and no member of the club has ever been exposed or "outed" in the life of our club.
Why do I have to identify myself upon entry?
The community of owners has a private access control service to the building. It is legal and they are fully entitled