Cum control

What is a masturbation coach?

Masturbation training

How can you make your solo sexual practice more fulfilling?

Are you going through the motions, but not really satisfied?

Most of us see masturbation as a way to relieve sexual tension. As a way to cool off. But it can be much more. If you are like many men, what you learned when you were much younger and haven't really changed the way you pleasure yourself since then. Life is busy and full of interruptions. While it is possible that we are more electronically connected than ever, many long for the need to better connect with ourselves. Sometimes we can feel so wrapped up in visual stimulation, often through pornography, that we are not really savoring the sensations. Through masturbation training, you will practice how to slow down and reconnect with your erotic self. We will practice being alive and simply experiencing every erotic moment. We will set aside expectations and results and learn to savor and revel in the moment. Masturbation training can also help you find incredible heights of pleasure. Most men take between five and ten minutes to reach orgasm. What would it be like to be in erotic ecstasy for hours? Imagine feeling relaxed and connected to the ground that you could feel after such a long and luxurious erotic experience! Often, masturbation becomes a way to cope with overwhelming emotions, including boredom. Many men find that masturbation becomes habitual. We often focus on some external stimulus like pornography instead of focusing on what we feel in our body. Often, men masturbate to quickly relieve tension. These men may find that masturbation becomes a daily habit instead of a truly pleasurable experience. Many men also continue to feel guilt, shame, or at least embarrassment for how much they enjoy masturbating. Therefore, masturbation remains hidden and practiced furtively. We at Pajas entre colegas have managed to break that taboo. Typically, this prevents self-pleasure from becoming a deeply rewarding and nourishing practice. In fact, most men get stuck in a repetitive and predictable habit, often learned at a young age, of simply relieving sexual tension.

There is so much more possible!

Masturbating with attention: being fully present in your body and savoring every sensation opens the door to deep states of ecstasy. Masturbating consciously transforms self-pleasure from a quick way to get excited into a satisfying practice that has the potential to transform ourselves. Sexual intimacy is a way to express and experience your connection with another. Conscious masturbation is about expressing and experiencing a connection with someone you may not have connected with lately: yourself. Masturbation training provides men with the opportunity to learn enhanced self-pleasure skills and experience a deep connection with ourselves.

What is a masturbation coach?

Just as I believe in a holistic life without compartmentalization, masturbation training is not just about masturbation. Of course, we will talk about technique, but we will also integrate it with other important aspects of your life. For example, a key component of conscious masturbation is being fully present in what is happening. This focus on presence is not only useful in masturbation, it is useful in many areas of life. Carlos helps you pay total attention to what you are doing while giving you pleasure. A hands-on practice allows you to awaken your whole body to its erotic potential. It allows you to focus on the substantial rather than the superficial. Carlos  can help you re-establish the natural connection between your genitals, your heart, and your spirit. He helps you engage your whole body, not just your penis. Many times the mention of the word masturbation brings up jokes or nervous laughter. Almost everyone does it, but no one talks or listens seriously about it. It's time to change that! With Carlos, my coach, I listen to every move and he helps me gain clarity on what he wants from his practice. The simple fact of being able to openly and honestly talk about this delicate topic can be a transformative experience for many men. I will not judge or criticize. I can challenge you and push you towards your goals. But above all, I am your supporter. How many of us have someone with whom we can have this kind of relationship when it comes to our erotic pleasure? There are many areas we can explore together. Carlos starts each coaching relationship by talking to you to get to know you, I believe he guesses your desires, your values, and what would be your definition of a satisfying and pleasurable experience. You may be looking for ways to enhance your pleasure, seek a positive body image, confront shame, integrate spirituality with your erotic pleasure, learn to improve ejaculation, learn to experience pleasure without ejaculation, learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation. The possibilities are endless! Each session and each client I suppose will be different. My session with Carlos included conversation and other forms of communication. These assignments could provide me with powerful information and awareness. Listening is an important skill; many times when we are aware that something is not right it is because we are not listening to what our body wants. Many men masturbate in the same way they did when they were much younger. Our bodies evolve and the type of touch that works for us also evolves. Conscious touch can turn your whole body into a great erogenous zone capable of immense pleasure! Most of us emphasize with the sense of sight, Carlos makes you discover the other senses. He develops all senses to help you experience the potential of incredible pleasure. Visual images like pornography can distract us from the experience in our body: we are busy fantasizing about someone else instead of enjoying our own pleasure. We will learn to set aside porn, slow down, and notice subtle and intense pleasure! We will also explore the pleasure that follows letting go of the need for an erection. Sometimes, we focus more on erections than on pleasure. The paradox is that, for most men, when we let go of the need for an erection, our body does what comes naturally and the erection comes. Many men come to masturbation training "Cum control" with the desire to extend the time it takes to ejaculate, while others come to be masturbated. Often, extending the time to ejaculate is referred to as ejaculation control. Carlos helps us let go of mental noise so that your body learns to experience incredible pleasure. Sound is a tool that is often overlooked to expand your pleasure. Sometimes we have been conditioned to remain silent, we do not want to get caught. Sound has a way of opening the body and releasing primal instincts. We can experiment with sound and see what is released to your liking! You also explore choice and surrender around ejaculation. Carlos knows that at any moment you are going to go, but he has you dominated by listening and by touching your body, he will know exactly what your body wants. He is present and listens, he feels and trusts your body because he knows when it is time to let you ejaculate. The first step is choice. Most men start the masturbation routine and end up ejaculating out of habit. Many of us have experienced ejaculations when we were not really prepared for it and we know how frustrating that experience can be. But by being present in your body you can learn to listen to what your body needs. There are times when ejaculation is not so important. There are also times when your body really needs that great release and that is when you must do it with abandon and celebrate it. The second step is surrender. Many men have the habit of tensing up and holding their breath in preparation for ejaculation. Instead, I suggest that we consciously relax the body and breathe deeply. This can be difficult at first, but it actually helps the body relax and prepare to let go into the experience. Letting go is key. Ejaculation is a reflex that cannot be controlled (at least beyond a certain point!). Many of us try to control the experience; but the key to fully enjoying it is to let go and surrender to the sacred experience. One of my fundamental beliefs is that you cannot be erotic with other people until we learn to be erotic with ourselves.

Carlos since the other day you have become one of my teachers.

My personal journey

One of the most powerful realizations for me was the recognition and celebration of my inner beast. After much self-reflection, I came to honor the beast. It is this beast that makes me who I am. It is the beast that gives me drive and determination towards my goals. The beast represents the best of my masculine qualities of self-sufficiency, creativity, and personal responsibility. Celebrating the beast balances me and grounds me. It channels energy towards activity and expression . It is the beast that is erotic. Befriending the beast has allowed me to heal the relationship with my body. Being afraid of my inner beast would be, for me, like being afraid of my soul.

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Thank you for everything Master!!!