Forced Chastity at a Distance: Cage Control and Games Mediated by Digital Platforms. Part I.

Hello dear colleagues of Club PeC. In this delivery, I will talk to you about one of the issues that I am consulted about the most: how to carry out controlled chastity games remotely? how can these Provoking and Denying Games increase libido, leading you to intensify your ejaculations, even when practiced while the keyholder is far away from you? To be honest, for many years I limited myself to playing the role of keyholder only in person encounters, because I thought that controlling chastity cages remotely would be unstimulating and even very cumbersome. However, when I decided to explore remote chastity control last year, I discovered that, in addition to being a very fun and exciting task, there were several devices and social platforms that greatly facilitated my work as a keyholder. For this reason, I decided to write this note to share my experiences with you and help you enjoy your desires to control, or to feel controlled, in these kinky cage games. But before we start talking about devices, social networks, and chastity games related to remote control, I would like to remind you of a couple of central issues before deciding to play these games remotely. First, it is necessary to understand the responsibility that both adult individuals, both the one who decides to control and the one who decides to wear the cage, must assume to develop these practices in a healthy, safe, and honest way. It is important that both players maintain realistic expectations regarding these games. Understanding that common sense should ALWAYS prevail over the slightest discomfort or pain caused by wearing the cage, deciding immediately to remove it. The same applies when proposing challenges, tests, and other games, which should NEVER expose to risks or embarrassing situations that could have unpleasant consequences for any of the parties. As I mentioned in previous notes, consensus, care, and respect for the established limits should guide the construction of a trusting relationship between two friends, regardless of which role each party decides to explore. Another key issue is to understand the difficulties derived from interacting remotely. It is necessary for each player to know: what are their goals, how much time they can dedicate to the game, how their libidos work, and any other issue associated with the dynamics and viability of the game. This requires patience and developing good communication, understanding that both players must stimulate each other from their roles, avoiding situations of mistreatment such as ghosting or intensive harassment. In summary, there must be clear and well-communicated rules, knowing they will not necessarily be set in stone and can be reconsidered as the game progresses. And now let's get to the part that will surely interest you the most in this note: how to develop remote chastity games. Regarding this, there are two key issues to address: 1) How can remote control of the chastity cage be implemented?, and 2) How to design games around remote control that are stimulating for the players? Since it is an extensive topic, I will divide it into two deliveries, in this first one I will only talk about the first point, leaving the games part for the second delivery.    

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Options for remote control of the chastity cage:

1) Trust-based control only (eyes that don't always see, but believe). This is undoubtedly the simplest form of remote control. It is based on the keyholder trusting the word of the caged individual (chastity guy). This form of control is usually the starting point of any long-distance chastity relationship as it is economical, as it does not require any additional devices other than the cage, and also does not demand that the caged individual have much trust in their keyholder. Often, this style of control is combined with a policy of random cage-checks, requested at any time by the keyholder. These consist of sending a photo with a date and time verification, or answering a video call showing directly that the cage is in place. Advantages: this mode of control protects the caged individual from capricious or abusive behaviors by their keyholder, as the caged individual maintains total control over the opening and closing of the cage. Disadvantages: for many caged individuals, this alternative is experienced as "false" control, as they can remove the cage by having unrestricted access to the keys, making them feel that the experience lacks excitement. 2) Control using numbered plastic locks (nothing that a pair of scissors can't release). This form of remote control is also simple to implement and relatively inexpensive. It is based on the use of numbered plastic locks that, once placed and locked, can only be opened by cutting them. Once opened, there is no way to reuse the same lock, and since they come printed with a unique multi-digit number, the keyholder can control that the caged individual has not changed the lock without their permission between one cage-check and the next. Advantages: this mode of control, like the previous one, also protects the caged individual from capricious or abusive behaviors by their keyholder, as the caged individual preserves total control over the opening and closing of the cage by being able to easily free themselves by cutting the lock. But at the same time, the control becomes real because the caged individual has no way to hide this situation in the next cage-checks they send to their keyholder. Additionally, when combined with the use of cages made of plastic materials, they can easily pass through airport security checks and other places where metal detectors are used. Disadvantages: not all models of chastity cages are compatible with this type of locks. Additionally, this option can be very costly if the frequency of cage removal is high, as they are disposable locks. Regarding the latter, it is not a suitable alternative for someone adapting to using a new chastity cage, as in these cases it is common that during the first few weeks, the cage must be removed and repositioned several times in the same day. 3) Control using key safes with mechanical opening combination. This form of remote control is also simple to implement and moderately inexpensive. It is based on the use of small key safes that restrict access to the cage keys. These can be purchased at any hardware store, as they are widely used by owners of tourist rental properties. These safes are opened by a mechanical device controlled by a 4-digit combination, and it is possible to program this combination multiple times. Controlling with this type of devices is more laborious compared to the previous options, as it requires reprogramming the code of the key safe before each new key storage. In general, this reprogramming is guided by the keyholder through a video call with the caged individual. The latter reprograms the new combination by sliding the dials with their fingers, but without seeing the combination being generated. For this, it is necessary for the front of the safe to face the caged individual's computer camera, so that only the keyholder can see and guide the caged individual's fingers as they move the dials randomly. Once the combination is generated, the keyholder will take a photo of it and instruct the caged individual to store the keys, close the key safe, and move the dials again to lock the safe. All this while ensuring that the caged individual does not spy on the programmed digit combination. Advantages: this alternative adapts to any type of key and makes the feeling of loss of control in the caged individual more real, while stimulating the keyholder more intensely. In this sense, it is not possible to open the key safe without the code known only to the keyholder, unless by destroying the safe with a hammer and considerable force. Disadvantages: it requires the caged individual to have a lot of trust in their relationship with the keyholder and for both to reserve time to have video calls quite frequently. It also requires developing a communication protocol for emergency cases where the cage needs to be removed unexpectedly. There are simple ways to implement such protocols thanks to current technologies, but it remains an additional issue to resolve compared to the previous control alternatives. Finally, I won't lie to you, reprogramming the cage is a laborious task as it is necessary for the four dials that will make up the new combination to be well aligned for the reprogramming of the new code to be successful. 4) Control using key safes with digitally generated combination remotely through mobile APPs. This form of remote control is very simple and convenient to implement, but significantly more expensive than the previous alternatives. Like the last option, it is based on the use of small key safes that restrict access to the cage keys, only that the programming of the combination that controls the opening of the safe is digital rather than mechanical. There are several devices of this type, which usually require synchronizing a mobile APP with a code associated with the key safe provided by the manufacturer. Once the APP is linked to the key safe, temporary 4-digit codes that enable its opening can be generated from the mobile phone. Advantages: this alternative has many advantages. Like the previous option, it adapts to all types of keys and makes the feeling of loss of control in the caged individual more real, while stimulating the keyholder more intensely. Believe me, I often have very strong erections every time I generate a temporary code for one of my caged colleagues. Additionally, it is infinitely easier to use, with just a couple of clicks you can generate and share temporary codes, without the need to coordinate video calls to reprogram the codes. On the other hand, these devices allow the keyholder to supervise several key safes using a single APP, and also enable a caged individual to be controlled by several keyholders, if desired, as the same key safe can be linked to several mobile phones at the same time. Disadvantages: the only major disadvantage of this option is its high cost. Many of these electronic key safes cost around €200 in the market, making these devices inaccessible for many caged individuals. 5) Direct control over chastity cages with a remote opening device (digital key). This form of remote control is the only one I have not explored so far. Therefore, I will present here an analysis from my perspective and general experience with a caged individual using this type of cage. Although I will not mention brands, surely those who have been exploring the world of chastity devices for some time have seen these cages reviewed in various forums and websites specialized in sex toys and BDSM. The central idea behind the design of these devices is remote and direct control of the cage opening using mobile APPs, so we can affirm that they were specifically designed for remote play. Advantages: the benefits of this alternative are similar to those listed for the previous option. That is, the feeling of loss of control in the caged individual becomes very real, while stimulating the keyholder much more intensely. Also, it is likely very easy to use, and I imagine that the feeling of the caged individual when feeling the cage opening remotely and directly, without using physical keys, must be very kinky. On the other hand, although I cannot confirm it as I have not used them, I imagine they must provide a lot of flexibility and ease in remote control, allowing more than one mobile phone to be linked to the same cage. Disadvantages: one of the main disadvantages, as with electronic key safes, is undoubtedly their high cost. Although in my opinion, this disadvantage is more serious in this case, as there is a risk that the cage may not adapt to the needs of the caged individual. In this sense, as I mentioned earlier in my note on the "ABC of chastity games," the chances of a cage model being uncomfortable for a user are high, especially if you want to use the cage for long periods of chastity. Therefore, purchasing a digitally controlled key safe, while also expensive, has zero risk as you can store the keys of any cage in it. Thus, while an uncomfortable cage must be discarded or resold, the electronic key safe can always be used no matter how many times you change cage models. Moreover, if you lose interest in chastity games at some point, you can probably resell your key safe outside of this kinky environment as they are widely used by real estate agencies managing tourist rental properties. I hope this summary of alternatives for implementing remote controls of chastity cages provides you with more possibilities to explore your kinks in a simple and safe way, especially for those living in small towns where it is always more difficult to find guys who like to wear cages or be keyholders. As always, do not hesitate to write to me for inquiries, and for those curious to see examples of how I control cages remotely, I recommend visiting my social networks: Nick72 on xtudr.com and @rugbyunion8 on X (formerly twitter).