In this installment, I will talk about forced chastity games, which are one of the most commonly used practices within the fetish community under the umbrella of techniques known as "Tease & Denial". These practices aim to increase arousal through a simple yet powerful idea: creating cycles of stimulation that are delayed, paused, and intermittently resumed, to gradually increase libido. Thus, through the anxiety generated by these slow progression stimulations in the one assuming the submissive role, it is achieved that they often experience much more intense orgasms. Within this group of practices, perhaps the most well-known are orgasm control or edging, often referred to in English as cum control or edging, for which there is already an excellent article on the Club PeC website, and forced chastity games, which we will discuss here. Although it is worth mentioning that beyond these, there are many other techniques, perhaps not as closely associated with the fetish community, such as Strip Teases, which can also be seen as good examples of "Tease & Denial" games. In particular, forced phallic chastity games are named as such because they involve the use of chastity devices that prevent the possibility of achieving a full erection of the penis. This makes it very difficult, if not impossible, to masturbate the phallus, thus "forcing" one to maintain chastity. Beyond this designation of "forced chastity," we must not forget that we are always talking about consensual practices and, therefore, non-abusive. The submissive will always agree on their limits and conditions for this practice, and the person in the dominant role (referred to in English as a keyholder) must ensure the care and well-being of the one submitting to their control. Regarding this, we can say that forced chastity is perhaps the most emotionally intense practice of "Tease & Denial," as control is concretized through a real physical restriction thanks to two fetish elements:the cage and its corresponding set of keys, or the device equivalent to the keys used to enable or block the opening of the cage, such as, for example, the mobile apps of some cage models that have Bluetooth control. In my experience as a keyholder, I must confess that I have been surprised by the wide variety and breadth of motivations or fetishes for which many guys approach experiencing chastity cages. This is independent of their sexual preferences and, I dare say, in some cases it goes beyond the identification with a submissive role, although it is clear that the vast majority of those who have sought me out often experience it as a form of submission. As you can imagine, there are many topics to discuss about chastity games. However, in this first introductory note, I will only leave you with a small decalogue of questions to keep in mind for those who are eager to start in these games. Some answers to these questions undoubtedly arise from applying strict common sense, but others you will only know once you have some experience in these practices. Then, in future installments, we can delve deeper into each of these points if you wish.
What motivates you to want to experience chastity? Understanding what sexual impulse drives you to desire chastity will allow you to better understand what type of situations and sexual games you can best combine with its use. Some enjoy it for the pleasure of feeling controlled during sessions of physical restriction, others see chastity as a way to increase pleasure in situations of sexual domination, and some seek to experience ways to achieve orgasm that do not involve phallic stimulation, among many other motivations. If your discovery of chastity cages came through consuming porn, you could ask yourself if the situations seen in those videos are the ones that stimulated you the most. This can help you, and your keyholder, make better use of forced chastity during your play encounters.
How to choose a chastity cage? The answer to this depends not only on anatomical and ergonomic issues, but also on other aspects related to your response to the previous question. Choosing a chastity cage for use during a single session is not the same as choosing one intended for longer periods of time.Chastity devices consist of two basic parts: the ring that allows it to be secured to the body and the cage that covers the penis. The choice of material from which both the ring and the cage are made, which does not necessarily have to be the same, impacts depending on the type of use you will give it. The same goes for the different opening and closing mechanisms of the cages or types of keys. Your daily life aspects are also relevant if you are going to use it for long periods. Even the color of the cage can be important or not depending on the fetish that attracted you to forced chastity. And all this mentioning just a few aspects to consider.
How to put on a cage and keep it in a comfortable position? The proper placement of a cage depends on several aspects, with one of the most relevant being the type of ring included in the chastity device. Placing a closed ring, a semi-closed ring, or an articulated ring is not the same. Also, the way the cage fits or connects to the ring is very relevant. Another important aspect is the weight of the cage and ring. Heavier cages tend to slide easily from their original placement position when engaging in physical activities like walking. In this regard, there are some accessories, such as elastic bands, that help keep the cages in a better position, making their use more comfortable.
How to train in the progression of abstinence times? As you can imagine, common sense must be applied: a lot of gradualness. It is foolish to buy a cage, put it on, and immediately start a period of several hours of chastity. In fact, statistically, it is most likely that the first cage you buy will not be viable for sustaining several hours of chastity, and, I fear, it may not even be suitable for very short periods. And this applies even if you have thoroughly researched in the process of choosing your first cage. Unfortunately, beyond the care and analysis you do when choosing it, you won't know how comfortable these devices will be until you have tried using them. Therefore, you must be patient and be prepared to buy more than one cage until you find the right one. On the other hand, every time you try a new cage, always take it off after the first 15 minutes of use, no matter how comfortable you feel, because some discomforts will only be noticed after removing the chastity and relaxing the genital area. Never leave a cage on for an extended period that you have just put on for the first time! Furthermore, sometimes it may be comfortable at first and cause discomfort in subsequent uses. Proceed very slowly with time increments! Enjoy the process of experiencing chastity with caution. Rest at least a couple of days between each time you put on the cage. I know many have read on social media about very prolonged chastities, even for months, which arouse many fetishes and fantasies, but believe me, not all these experiences are necessarily true, let alone healthy.
How to choose a keyholder? Again, there are many aspects to consider, including the possibility that you do not turn to any keyholderuntil you have developed good training in chastity and trust in a dominant who allows you to partially relinquish control, even initially with a friend, not necessarily from the fetish environment, who simply helps you in this role. I even know of guys in chastity who exchange their keys applying a cross-control strategy. Other options include the use of timed locking devices and other strategies that do not require the need for a human keyholderfrom the get-go. However, it is also clear that forced chastity reaches its highest emotional intensity when a dominant exercises control over your cage. But my advice is to leave the choice of the keyholder for last, once you have found a comfortable cage, tested it for enough time, better understood the sensations it arouses in you wearing the cage, and feel secure to start partially ceding control over the sexual use of your penis for brief periods. There are also mechanisms that will allow you to gradually gain confidence in your keyholder, such as using numbered plastic ties instead of traditional locks, and other strategies that only allow your dominant partial control. This will make you feel more secure against possible abusive or unforeseen behaviors that may arise in your interaction with the keyholder you have chosen. My realistic advice is: never hand over the physical keys of your chastity until you have built a healthy and trustworthy bond with your play partner.
Can I engage in chastity games remotely? This is a question many guys ask me, especially those who live in small towns where it is more difficult to find a play partner. The answer is clearly YES. There are online platforms designed specifically for chastity games, as well as safety boxes to store keys that only open with the correct combination, and other methods to enable remote chastity control. Obviously, we can dedicate a future entry to detailing what is needed to make effective remote chastity control possible.
How to properly disinfect a chastity cage?How to keep it clean during long periods of chastity? This is very important to take care of the health of your genital area. Even more so if the cage is shared with play partners, which is not as common for submissives, but when you are a keyholder and several guys come to play with your collection of cages. The way to disinfect and sterilize a chastity cage depends on the material from which it is made. For example, very simple disinfection procedures like boiling are not suitable for models made by 3D printing, as they can deform at high temperatures. On the other hand, when chastity is practiced beyond the duration of an encounter, it is common that simple physiological activities like urinating must be done with the chastity on. This sometimes adds a fetish element for some submissives, as they generally need to urinate while sitting and many perceive this as an exciting decrease in their "virility." Obviously, this is relative, depending on each person's eroticization or not of the situation of not being able to urinate standing up, but what undoubtedly becomes important is learning to properly clean the cage after each urination. This will depend on the shape of the cage, as some are more open and others more closed, among other aspects. It is also necessary to understand that prolonged chastity does not mean that the cage cannot be removed for proper periodic cleaning. There are even ways to carry this out under the supervision of the keyholder, whether in person or remotely.
Can I ejaculate while in chastity? The answer is YES, but it is not necessarily easy to achieve in all cases. It depends on the person, the situation, and other aspects. Many who start in chastity games find it most exciting to be able to replace traditional masturbation as a way to achieve an orgasm with other forms of stimulation. Some want to achieve orgasm through prostate stimulation, while others want to take advantage of the cage to achieve orgasms through vibration or electrostimulation. So much so that some cages are already designed with accessories to favor these alternative forms of stimulation. In these cases, the type of material from which the cage is made is a very relevant aspect when deciding to purchase it since, for example, some materials transmit vibrations better than others along the entire cage and securing ring.
When should I not use a chastity cage? There are people who, despite their strong desires to experience these games, cannot find a chastity cage that feels comfortable and safe to wear. Sometimes this happens due to strictly anatomical reasons, and other times due to sensitivity issues. This often generates strong frustration for them, but it must be understood that these games cannot be carried out if there are discomfort, pain, or irritations. Health, both physical and mental, come before any fetish. In these cases, considering the purchase of custom-made cages can be an option, but I also recommend evaluating other ways to experience similar fetishes without forcing chastity through the use of a cage. That is why it is very important to understand the answer to point 1) of this decalogue. What is the underlying fetish in your desire to explore chastity? From there, you can understand that there are other ways to stimulate yourself without the cage being essential.
Can I integrate chastity games into a role-playing game? To discuss this in detail, we must first explain what a role-playing game is and how they are designed. Topics that we will surely address in future entries of this JdC Section. But I can tell you in advance that the answer is YES. We just need a bit of imagination, a bit of experience, and a lot of playful spirit 😉
And that's all for today. As always, thank you very much for reading! If some of the topics raised in this decalogue interest you more than others, let me know with your comments here, on Twitter, or on Xtudr.com. This way, I can prioritize writing about the topics that interest you the most. A big hug. Enjoy your fantasies with a lot of fetish, but healthily. And please don't forget to vote to choose the topic for the next installment: @rugbyunion81) What is a role-playing game?2) How to choose a cage?3) Virtual cage control
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muy instructivo y me ha aclarado muchas cosas sobre todo de el por qué quiero iniciarme en la castidad. Me gustaria que continuaras por el punto 2)¿Cómo elegir una jaula?. Muchas gracias de antemano.
Muchas gracias por tu feedback!!! Voy a incluir ese tema nuevamente en la próximas encuestas para decidir el tema de la próxima nota. Hay muchos interesados 😉
, which are one of the most commonly used practices within the fetish community under the umbrella of techniques known as "Tease & Denial". These practices aim to increase arousal through a simple yet powerful idea: creating cycles of stimulation that are delayed, paused, and intermittently resumed, to gradually increase libido. Thus, through the anxiety generated by these slow progression stimulations in the one assuming the submissive role, it is achieved that they often experience much more intense orgasms. Within this group of practices, perhaps the most well-known are orgasm control or edging, often referred to in English as cum control or edging, for which there is already an excellent article on the Club PeC website, and forced chastity games, which we will discuss here. Although it is worth mentioning that beyond these, there are many other techniques, perhaps not as closely associated with the fetish community, such as Strip Teases, which can also be seen as good examples of "Tease & Denial" games. In particular, forced phallic chastity games are named as such because they involve the use of chastity devices that prevent the possibility of achieving a full erection of the penis. This makes it very difficult, if not impossible, to masturbate the phallus, thus "forcing" one to maintain chastity. Beyond this designation of "forced chastity," we must not forget that we are always talking about consensual practices and, therefore, non-abusive. The submissive will always agree on their limits and conditions for this practice, and the person in the dominant role (referred to in English as a keyholder) must ensure the care and well-being of the one submitting to their control. Regarding this, we can say that forced chastity is perhaps the most emotionally intense practice of "Tease & Denial," as control is concretized through a real physical restriction thanks to two fetish elements: the cage and its corresponding set of keys, or the device equivalent to the keys used to enable or block the opening of the cage, such as, for example, the mobile apps of some cage models that have Bluetooth control. In my experience as a keyholder, I must confess that I have been surprised by the wide variety and breadth of motivations or fetishes for which many guys approach experiencing chastity cages. This is independent of their sexual preferences and, I dare say, in some cases it goes beyond the identification with a submissive role, although it is clear that the vast majority of those who have sought me out often experience it as a form of submission. As you can imagine, there are many topics to discuss about chastity games. However, in this first introductory note, I will only leave you with a small decalogue of questions to keep in mind for those who are eager to start in these games. Some answers to these questions undoubtedly arise from applying strict common sense, but others you will only know once you have some experience in these practices. Then, in future installments, we can delve deeper into each of these points if you wish.
drives you to desire chastity will allow you to better understand what type of situations and sexual games you can best combine with its use. Some enjoy it for the pleasure of feeling controlled during sessions of physical restriction, others see chastity as a way to increase pleasure in situations of sexual domination, and some seek to experience ways to achieve orgasm that do not involve phallic stimulation, among many other motivations. If your discovery of chastity cages came through consuming porn, you could ask yourself if the situations seen in those videos are the ones that stimulated you the most. This can help you, and your keyholder, make better use of forced chastity during your play encounters.
several aspects, with one of the most relevant being the type of ring included in the chastity device. Placing a closed ring, a semi-closed ring, or an articulated ring is not the same. Also, the way the cage fits or connects to the ring is very relevant. Another important aspect is the weight of the cage and ring. Heavier cages tend to slide easily from their original placement position when engaging in physical activities like walking. In this regard, there are some accessories, such as elastic bands, that help keep the cages in a better position, making their use more comfortable.
in small towns where it is more difficult to find a play partner. The answer is clearly YES. There are online platforms designed specifically for chastity games, as well as safety boxes to store keys that only open with the correct combination, and other methods to enable remote chastity control. Obviously, we can dedicate a future entry to detailing what is needed to make effective remote chastity control possible.
It depends on the person, the situation, and other aspects. Many who start in chastity games find it most exciting to be able to replace traditional masturbation as a way to achieve an orgasm with other forms of stimulation. Some want to achieve orgasm through prostate stimulation, while others want to take advantage of the cage to achieve orgasms through vibration or electrostimulation. So much so that some cages are already designed with accessories to favor these alternative forms of stimulation. In these cases, the type of material from which the cage is made is a very relevant aspect when deciding to purchase it since, for example, some materials transmit vibrations better than others along the entire cage and securing ring.
muy instructivo y me ha aclarado muchas cosas sobre todo de el por qué quiero iniciarme en la castidad. Me gustaria que continuaras por el punto 2)¿Cómo elegir una jaula?. Muchas gracias de antemano.
Muchas gracias por tu feedback!!! Voy a incluir ese tema nuevamente en la próximas encuestas para decidir el tema de la próxima nota. Hay muchos interesados 😉
Great placement Sir! 🔝👊🖤🔒
Muy interesante y educativo. Gracias por documentar esta práctica y en español.