Why Some Guys Like to Masturbate Together

Does it seem a bit strange to think about guys masturbating together?

Well, for some of you, the idea of men masturbating in groups might seem like a strange sexual fetish, however, it’s not as uncommon as one might think.

The truth of the matter is that "bators" (men looking for mutual masturbation opportunities) are not something rare in the gay scene in the U.S. However, the fear of being seen and labeled as "weird" or "perverted" keeps many people in the closet just like other fetishes in the world of sex, whether gay or straight.

That said, in this article we will explore the world of "baters", or the scene where guys masturbate together.

It's the same motion, just not alone

When you think about it, masturbating alone is still quite tame and is something we already enjoy. The problem is that most people see masturbating alone as failed sex or as the hobby of lonely Internet "trolls." These are the things that keep most people who would otherwise be happily masturbating together keeping their fetishes at bay and silent about their desires.

Mutual masturbation in the gay community is often considered something related to sex and can also act as a heterosexual fig leaf, because "it's just guys having fun, it has nothing to do with sex."

For many in the gay community, masturbating together is a compromising act when one party (or both) is tired. For others, however, messing around with someone (or more people) is an excellent sexual experience in its own right.

A way to connect

Connect, but not in the traditional way. People in the gay community often share stories about other gay friends they used to masturbate with together.

It wasn't really about romance or love, but rather a way to hang out, with a flavor of intimacy and naughty fun. After masturbating, these people would start talking about regular random topics, often having a drink or two, nothing special. However, some of them claim to have managed to cultivate a deeper friendship among them thanks to the sexual tension that arose during these "group sessions" and the fact that, technically, they didn't end up sleeping together.

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The community lives on

In an effort to better understand masturbation alongside other men, people with this fetish often seek out others who share the same sexual desires, who not only see masturbation as a complementary activity rather than sex, but as a staple, of a balanced sexual life.

Fortunately, there are many websites on the Internet that explore these topics and there are also a couple of platforms that even offer a thriving community where people can freely explore their desires without being judged.

Such a community is Pajas entre Colegas and, in fact, it is quite a vibrant community. Most members are gay, but there is also a considerable number of bisexual and straight members. As such, Pajas entre Colegas offers guys the opportunity to safely masturbate with other men and have innocent fun in the process.

On the other hand, our community platform comes with a wealth of categories ensuring that our members seek the company of like-minded individuals with the possibility of clarifying the type of relationship you are looking to have. Aside from that, it also allows you to express your sexual freedom and the opportunity to share your "bator" stories and desires with the rest of the community.

The safest option

Aside from being mostly just a twist for some, for others who identify as solo-sexuals, masturbating together is not just a "thing," it is essentially "the thing." For others, it is a safer alternative than sex and, to be honest, when it comes to sex, mutual masturbation could be the safest way to engage in intimate relationships harmlessly. It is probably the only way to such acts between two guys that requires no preparation, making it the go-to activity anytime and anywhere.

On the other hand, there are those who simply enjoy “the journey.” These people (gay or straight) simply enjoy participating in such activities, whether online or offline. They are those who love the act of group masturbation with like-minded people and friends. They enjoy witnessing it, living it, and being a part of it.

Additionally, there are those who see this as a “hobby.” This may also seem a bit strange, however, there are some avid bators who think of beating their meat alongside other men as a great leisure activity that has all the benefits of self-pleasure, plus the added element of the "group factor" making it all the more appealing to them.

Others are more open about their "silly agenda." They are the ones who openly admit that they simply want to see penises and are fascinated by them. The act of exploring another person and their intimacy, this shared experience is what drives these men, who seek to recall their teenage curiosities about other men's bodies.

Guys Just Want to Have Fun

When you masturbate, you are essentially having sex with yourself. In a group, you are having sex with yourself alongside others who are doing the same. When you take a look at it, it’s the ideal open relationship alternative for many people with clear boundaries of intimacy. Although most men who engage in these activities often seek more, like oral fellatio and kissing, drawing the line is simple and easy with mutual masturbation. The intimate experience and release are shared and individual without ruining ongoing relationships. All parties can be involved in the act itself, however, it is not real sex with another partner.

Moreover, we can discuss what would be considered cheating nowadays. As we would say, to each their own. Some might consider flirting as crossing the line, and for others, under specific circumstances, even penetration and climax do not qualify as cheating, although that could not be further from the truth.

All in all, group masturbation can be a great way to explore sexuality and fetishes, whether gay or straight. The lesson should be to keep an open mind and explore your sexual nature, desires, and needs as much as possible.

Why? Because only then can you truly enjoy any sexual act when you know your own preferences and limits. Otherwise, you will spend quite a few bitter moments between the sheets.

That said, feel free to be part of our vibrant community and explore the world of "baters." The door is open, all you have to do is come.