The PeC Guide to Starting a Masturbation Club.

Starting a masturbation club isn't easy, and I want to provide you with as much information as possible to get you started.

This is a long and comprehensive post, so I would recommend taking some notes.

 

INTRODUCTION

Masturbation clubs for men have existed for centuries, although evidence of such clubs may be limited.

Unless you are a historian with a special interest in secret societies of the past, it is almost impossible to discover information about them publicly.

One of the most famous is Beggar’s Benison. Believed to have opened its doors in the 18th century, this club existed for many decades. It also supposedly created offshoots of which even less is known. Rumors persist that it still has influence in the student bodies of previously associated universities.

The Hellfire Club is another. Operating almost at the same time as the Beggar's Benison, and believed to be linked to the Scottish order through its members, this club was famous for its debauchery and celebrity membership. Politicians and prominent figures from business and the arts were believed to gather for its events. Activities ranged from simple drunken parties to orgies and group masturbation.

There are many others, of course. Thousands of these secret clubs have existed throughout the centuries, going back beyond the Romans and Greeks.

While knowledge of the groups may be scarce and it seems there was a pause in the early 20th century, it is implausible to believe they simply ended. Men still enjoyed their masturbation among each other. Throughout the decades of the 1920s, 1930s, and 1940s, it is highly likely that these clubs were still operational, just under considerable secrecy.

Photographer Bob Mizer created the Athletic Model Guild in 1950, but he began photographing male models in the 1940s. This informal enterprise (theoretically illegal at the time) published Physique Pictorial. The quarterly magazine featured young, muscular men in various poses. Many of these shots were erotic and clearly intended to suggest the act of shared masturbation. In fact, it is believed that many of the models at that time were involved in that community. Since homosexuality was still considered taboo, and often punishable, the act of shared masturbation was seen as more acceptable.

A large number of the images showed male friendships, boys comfortable with each other, naked, and sometimes erect.

It was perhaps the first incarnation of the media "bromosexuals" or "Brojob", which many mistakenly believe is a modern creation.

In the 1960s and 1970s, notions of sexuality changed considerably again. A new generation of rebellious youth was rediscovering all kinds of sexual activities. While there is no evidence that I can find to prove the existence of formal male masturbation clubs at this time, we can assume they existed.

Throughout these decades, male college fraternities also engaged in many sexually charged activities. Events have been described by numerous members of those collectives in the decades that followed. These activities were often characterized as initiations or traditions. The reality is that gathering so many young, virile men will lead to interest and sexual exploration.

We know that male masturbation groups resurfaced in the 1980s, more out of necessity than awareness of this colorful history.

The AIDS epidemic was a terrible time. The mysterious and deadly disease was affecting hundreds of thousands of men, predominantly in gay/bi communities. When it began to be theorized that it was a sexually transmitted virus, attitudes towards sex changed rapidly. Masturbation clubs soon began to appear, allowing men to gather for mutual pleasure in a safer way.

Such groups continued to grow, disappear, start again, vanish, reappear… Throughout the 1990s and 2000s, these clubs began sporadically through little more than word of mouth.

Then the internet came along, and everything changed once again.

With sites like Yahoo! Groups, MSN Groups, and Blogger they were finally able to organize in a much easier and faster way. Events could be planned and invitations sent out. Meetings could see hundreds of men arriving to participate. Communities developed, and branches began. New clubs opened in new cities. Venues "event space" discovered a new profitable business opportunity by hosting these men and adopted the local club as a regular residence.

Masturbation clubs were more popular than ever.

And here we are, with communities all over the world. There are potentially hundreds of organized clubs to join. Our intention is to show men that there is a community, whether one that already enjoys masturbation together or guys hoping someone will start a club in their city.

The Madrid Pajas Club started in 2015, but it has been strengthening in recent years. Originally starting as an occasional event, in different locations, we now find a home for the SeDe Pajas entre Colegas (Pajas Club) Madrid. Heterosexual, bisexual, gay men, or simply open-minded men gather for several hours of masturbation among themselves.

The crowd is diverse. Guys from 18 to 60 years old, all body types, all backgrounds, all kinds of dicks. Members can meet the mechanic who just came out of the garage and needs someone to jerk him off, or the banker who just had a tough day at the office and wants to join a circle of enthusiastic stroking. Married heterosexual men meet young gay guys. Gym-goers meet dads. It’s a party atmosphere where erections swing and friendly hands rub.

The success of this event is clearly shown by the fact that tickets usually sell out.

With hundreds of thousands, or even millions, of men in your city, there is clearly an audience for it. So why don’t you have a club like this?

STARTING A MASTURBATION CLUB

Any locality or city with a reasonable population could host a sustainable bator club, and there are only four obstacles to overcome.

1. Willingness to Lead

First, you need someone who is interested in starting a masturbation club in your area. It may seem like an overwhelming task, but it doesn’t have to be. Considering you’ve made it this far in this post, it’s likely that you are the one who can make this work.

If you have a bit of experience jerking off with other guys, you already have an advantage. You know what you want from this local community. You have a good level of confidence and motivation to get it started. If you’re unlikely to ever attend a masturbation club, you probably aren’t the right person to start one.

If, in theory, you would be the first to cross the door if your local sauna or men's spa organized a themed jerk-off night, you are more likely to succeed in your attempt to get it going. For the horny observer who keeps telling himself that someday he might jerk off with another guy, starting a masturbation club is not for you.

You can check with a venue and ask if they host such an event, perhaps planting the seed in their mind and giving them the idea to start one, but if you’re not already involved in the fun of shared masturbation, you probably aren’t the right person to plan and organize these events.

2. Venue

Starting a masturbation club means that you need a place to meet. It has to be suitable for an event like this. Many formal clubs use an existing adult space for that purpose, such as a sex club, bar, or men's sauna. Most larger cities have several venues to choose from, but the pandemic may have put them in difficulty. However, this could work in your favor. If a venue really needs to recover its audience and income, would they perhaps be more willing to host?

I would recommend looking around at the places you have locally. If there’s one that already organizes adult events and doesn’t host a masturbation party, why not suggest it to them? They don’t have much to lose if they host it on a quiet night.

While bars or clubs may be a bit more reluctant to host an adult party like this, saunas generally already organize themed events. They may just need someone to get it started. Check with these places first. See if they have a themed night already suitable for mutual masturbation. If they don’t, ask about the possibility of starting a masturbation club on a night when they are usually quiet.

Depending on how much you want to control or manage this club, the venue may be happy with your planning and hosting in their space. Alternatively, you could propose this event to them and let them handle the rest.

Some masturbation clubs are hosted in residential spaces. While they often have limited size and capacity, they are still a great way to start a club. Even if you can only invite 20 attendees, you could hold several a month, giving more men the opportunity to explore. It would be easier to convince a place like a sauna to accept your custom if you already have an established club.

Even if they wouldn’t want to formally offer the use of the space for your club, there’s little to stop them from joining the sauna and making use of their space. You will all simply be customers arriving at the same time to use their facilities.

Men’s saunas just want (and need) the custom. If your group suddenly started coming every other Monday and using the bathroom for a masturbation party, they are unlikely to complain about it. They might want to adopt the event as a formal club.

Always remember that different venues have different rules. Make sure their rules and space are compatible with your group and plans.

3. Operation

An established club or men's sauna is likely to have everything necessary and be ready to operate. Starting a masturbation club with them will be easier since you are just using their space. They have security, they have door processes (ID checks, etc.), they have their rules. They may still need a little guidance to hold such an event if you don’t move in and use their space without discussing it with them. For example, a sauna generally allows various intimate acts between guests, but a masturbation club generally has the rules of "no lips below the waist" and "nothing goes in anyone."

This must be properly communicated to all attendees. If they are simply a group of guys meeting in a sauna to use their space, they must remember that there may be other guests there who have no idea this is a masturbation event. It could lead to awkward encounters.

If you’re planning an event with a venue instead of just telling interested guys to meet there at the same time, the venue must understand that this is a masturbation-only event.

Trust me, 90% of baters don’t want to go to a club where other activities are enjoyed. I’ve seen clubs collapse in a month because they relaxed too much with the rules and thought no one would care. Baters are there to beat off; anything else can be done on another visit or at another event. If guys want to suck or fuck, they should go to a sucking or fucking club, or just visit the sauna on a normal day.

The reason many places like saunas don’t organize events like jerk-off clubs is simply that they don’t realize there is a local audience for them. If they knew they could fill their place with 100 men once a week, they would surely want to adapt their less profitable evening into an organized event.

Even if they don’t want to disturb existing members who might be attending and expecting something other than masturbation, most of these places are large enough to reserve a specific space for the club, while other regular members can continue with their usual activities in private rooms or other common spaces.

Keep in mind that different places in different states and countries have different laws to comply with. Be understanding if a venue is restricted in what they can offer for a club like this.

If you are operating a new club from home or working together with a venue, you have to implement membership fees, regardless of the venue.

This not only allows you to pay yourself for the time you dedicate, but also allows you to change venues or announce smaller meetings in other places at other times, if you wish.

Starting a masturbation club not only allows you to hold events with many guys, but also means you have a community of baters who often seek to meet for one-on-one encounters outside of the events themselves.

Having a small membership fee/registration process also helps eliminate time-wasters. There will undoubtedly be many inquiries from guys who simply like the idea of a masturbation club while they are horny and jerking off, but that enthusiasm will leave them as quickly as their semen does.

Implementing a membership system, even if it’s just a few € a year, is a good way to weed out these men. Keep all information about events and locations for those who are active members, this way you’re not sending information to absolutely anyone every time they ask and losing control of one of your best selling points: discretion.

4. Advertising

As mentioned earlier, jerk-off clubs are still considered somewhat "niche." Most people have no idea they exist. Venues that could host events like this don’t understand the potential of an audience in their city, and many men who would like to share their jerk with a group of other men have no idea they are part of a large community.

Connecting with that audience and bringing them to the club is one of the hardest things, but once this process has started, it quickly gains momentum. Men talk to each other about the new club, guys meet with other local baters and inform them about it, smaller bator groups that usually meet at one participant's house join the larger parties, online communities like ours post it in their newsletter to their subscribers and add dates to their event calendars.

Within a few months of starting a masturbation club, you may already have a few thousand local members in contact with you, a percentage of whom will attend an event.

You can start with just a couple of guys in a large room wondering where the others are, but after a couple of events, word will spread, and you could receive 20, 30, 40.... men each week.

ADDITIONAL THINGS TO CONSIDER

Discretion is a key element in any club of this nature. You will have members attending who are heterosexual in their everyday lives, married men, and men who generally just want to keep this low profile due to their work or social standing. When starting a masturbation club, you must ensure that you can respect this and make it your priority. Don’t choose a venue where men line up outside the doors on the street beneath a big sign that says "Dallas' Premier Gay Sauna!" You won’t get many participants if that’s how things are done. You are not asked to be ashamed, just expected to be reasonable in your discretion on behalf of your community.

ID verification is a VITAL aspect of any bator club. This should be obvious. Whether you are online or offline, if you discover someone is underage, you must cut communications immediately and do everything possible to ensure they do not contact you again. When organizing events, you must be absolutely sure that all attendees are of legal age. Having a member list and confirming ID with all of them is a good way to ensure your club is completely above board. Allowing a venue to implement their own ID checks is perfectly acceptable; they are on the same page as you and understand what is needed. If you are organizing events in a home environment or in a space you control completely, you are fully responsible for ensuring that all present are of legal age. If in doubt, don’t do it.

Color-coded or tagged wristbands are a good idea. Whether for members to indicate what they are interested in for the benefit of others (solo masturbation, mutual masturbation, or circle jerks) or if you are in a common space like a sauna where other customers may not understand (having all your members wear a "J/O ONLY" wristband that distinguishes them from other venue customers) wristbands help everyone be on the same page and understand what is expected and accepted. While this may cost a bit, they are worth it. You can get blank plastic or paper bands and simply mark them as needed if you want to keep costs even lower.

You may want to provide certain things for members. If you are using a sauna, there are likely lubricants and cleaning wipes available for members to use freely. If you are organizing an event in a private setting, you should ensure that members know to bring their own, but you should also be ready to provide things like lubricant, hand wipes, or towels. This is simply being a good host.

You are unlikely to have 20 members at the first event. While the Paris club had 80 attendees for its first event in 2021, I believe this was the result of widespread online and offline communication among existing baters in the city. Unless you already have such contacts, it is unlikely you will have that many confirmed attendees. However, don’t be discouraged. Keep organizing events and promoting them in the right places, and your audience will grow. We know of numerous clubs that started with 2 members (just before Covid) and now have over 50. If they can grow like that during a pandemic, you can grow much faster once it’s over and everything returns to normal.

Start building it now, even if you don’t plan to hold any events yet. You can sign up today with us, and we will start collecting newsletter subscribers ready for when you launch. The more time you have to build that potential audience, the more successful your first meeting will be, you might have 80 to 100 local men ready to go to the first party.

Don’t rely on online services to manage things for you; ensure your own hub. If you remember the collapse of Blogger, the adult purge of Tumblr, and (more recently) the end of Yahoo! Groups, you will understand this: WE OFFER YOU YOUR SUBDOMAIN. If you build everything on a service like Yahoo! and it shuts down, that’s it, it’s over. Several groups have discovered this recently. Clubs with hundreds or thousands of members using Yahoo groups to organize have been left without a club. Whether it’s a free group site like Yahoo or your own domain, you should not underestimate the expenses that arise.

It really is complicated.

As I mentioned earlier, having your own website is best, but getting a subdomain "yourcity.pajasentrecolegas.es" is easy and free I think it’s the best option. You don’t need to publicly announce events to everyone on any social media site you choose, we can request that new followers send us their email address. And we already have a contact list to inform when you organize a planned event. This also allows us to start promoting your group among our readers. Having a domain or subdomain shows that you are serious and not just engaging in a personal fantasy. Try to stick to the traditional naming convention. Many men, when searching for a masturbation club in their area, may use this naming convention to search for your group. It’s not a strict and fast rule, and they won’t reject you for doing things differently, but you might get a little boost by using this format.

MASTURBATION CLUB CHECKLIST

1. Choose the subdomain of [tuciudad]pajasentrecolegas.es, this is the usual format.
2. Start an account or the same one you have on social media for the group.
3. Send us basic information about yourself, plans, etc. And we will start collecting contact information for followers interested in joining your club.( visit the contact page ), and we can promote your new club to our audience.
4. Choose a venue, domestic (can it host?), a local place, or an existing sauna/club.
5. Contact that sauna/club to inquire about using their venue for a meeting, or just organize for everyone to attend on the same day, at the same time.
6. Organize your first party, and have fun; we’ll take care of charging for the events.
7. Let me know how it went so we can write a post to further promote your group.
8. Inform me of new events so I can add them to the events calendar and attract new local members.

If there’s anything you think we’ve missed, leave me a comment below and we’ll update this post if necessary.

Starting a masturbation club can be very easy, once you’ve established the group, it’s a lot of fun and very rewarding.

We hope you consider it and that we can soon promote your local group among our audience.