International Day of Mental Health

Men: let's talk straight, among colleagues

October 10, World Mental Health Day. At PeC, we talk about it without beating around the bush: men's mental health matters. We come to lighten the load, to breathe, and to take care of ourselves among colleagues. No posing, no judgments.

Why talk about mental health... and why specifically among men?

Too many guys swallow discomfort in silence. We were raised to "keep going," not show "weakness," and fix everything on our own. The result: we endure more than we should, isolate ourselves, and when we explode, it's too late. At PeC, you don't have to pretend: you can talk about anxiety, gray patches, insomnia, sex, and guilt... like among colleagues.

Why is it hard for us to ask for help (and it's not your fault)

• Mandate to "be strong": We confuse responsibility with not feeling.
• Short emotional language: it's hard to name what's happening (anger, anxiety, fatigue).
• Shame and sex: if libido drops or there's compulsive masturbation, we see it as a "failure."
• Functional loneliness: work, screens, and zero spaces to talk without judgment.

When discomfort comes from our sexuality (and it's not "your fault")

Sometimes depression or anxiety brew from how we live our sexuality and from the judgmental environment.

• Sexual orientation and forced closet: homophobia (external or internalized) wears down and can lead to sadness, guilt, or isolation.
• Bullying and harassment: teasing at school, work, or family for "being different" undermines self-esteem and security.
• I'm aroused by other men: it's not a flaw. Repressing it or living it with shame multiplies anxiety.
• Watching gay porn: the issue isn't the porn, but using it to cover emotions or compare yourself to unrealistic standards.
• "I'm small": comparing yourself to actors or wardrobe myths steals peace. Pleasure comes from presence, rhythm, and connection, not centimeters.
• Rapid or delayed ejaculation; anorgasmia: You're not "defective." These are workable patterns: breathing, pauses, sensations, CumControl, and, if needed, professional support.
  At PeC, we don't pathologize your desire. Your body isn't broken. Here, we deactivate guilt and build habits that bring back calm and enjoyment.

Warning signs (for you or a colleague)

• Sudden changes in sleep or appetite; persistent fatigue.
• Irritability, desire to throw everything away, or total apathy.
• Ruminating constantly; chest anxiety; panic attacks.
• Using porn/masturbation/food/alcohol to "disconnect" that leaves you worse off.
• Social isolation: canceling plans and not returning messages.
• Thoughts of harming yourself or "disappearing." If this arises: don't stay alone and seek professional help immediately (dial 112 in emergencies).

Habits that do help (basic science, no smoke)

• Sleep first: consistent schedule, dark room, no coffee in the evening.
• Body in motion: brisk walk 30–40 min or train 3x/week.
• Light and rhythm: morning sun and fewer screens at night.
• Eat simple: vegetables, protein, water. Avoid sugar spikes.
• Breathe and pause: 5 minutes of slow nasal breathing lower revs.
• Quick journal: 3 lines — What I feel / What I need / First step.
• Conscious sex and masturbation: not to "release" wildly, but to listen to the body (rhythm, breathing, sensations).
• Reconcile with your eroticism: if there's anxiety about size, erection, or ejaculation, work on internal sensations more than "performance."

Conscious sexuality ≠ therapy, but adds up

At PeC, we work on CumControl (ejaculation control) to reconnect with the body without haste, use breathing and rhythm to modulate excitement/anxiety, and get out of the "click-masturbation-guilt" autopilot. Note: this doesn't replace psychotherapy or medicine; it's a well-being and community complement.

In community, it hurts less

• Say "I'm not okay" without frills.
• Careful meetups: walk, coffee, or workout where not everything is about "showing off."
• Check-in among colleagues: "dude, shall I call you this afternoon?"
• Clear boundaries with work and draining people.

PeC Brotherhood: no one judges you here

We are a brotherhood: a group of colleagues to support you in whatever you need. We're not experts, but talking openly with people who don't judge you already lightens the burden you carry. If you want, ask for a check-in (short chat with a buddy/volunteer), share how you're feeling, and we'll agree on a simple first step. Here, you come with your boundaries and your pace. You are not alone.

Legal notice and tips for seeking free help

Important notice: PeC is not a healthcare or psychotherapy service. Nothing we do replaces the care of doctors, psychologists, or psychiatrists. If there is a risk to your integrity or that of others, call emergency services (112) or go to your Health Center.

Where to seek free or low-cost help (quick and practical):

• Health Center → request an appointment and referral to mental health.
• Search "Mental health + your city" → public resources and local associations.
• Official College of Psychology in your community → listings and programs with social rates.
• NGOs and LGBTI associations → support groups, guidance, and safe referrals.
• Regional helplines → emotional support and referral (check official websites).

How to ask for help (short script):
"Hello, I'm [your name]. I've been experiencing anxiety/low mood for [time], it's affecting my sleep/work/relationships, and I need guidance. Can we explore options for psychological support?"

What we'll do at PeC this month

• Meeting "Men and Mental Health: talking openly" — brief circle, no posing, with practical guidelines.
• Mini-workshop "Breathe, Feel, Control (CumControl)" — breathing + rhythm + body awareness applied to manual play.
• Colleagues' space — relaxed meetup to take care of ourselves, chat, and laugh.

Online Help

Let's get to the useful stuff, buddy! Here's a verified list (phone + website; address when the service publishes headquarters). I've prioritized national 24/7 hotlines and official directories for local referrals.